Mon Nov, 21 2016

My Hair Secrets | Jade Seah

It’s funny how in recent times, quite a number of people have asked me about my hair. They say really nice, complimentary things, ranging from the generic, “I love your hair! It always looks so good!” to complimenting my awesome stylist at Shunji Matsuo Ngee Ann City, Fannie, by commenting on my ever-changing hair colour (she last gave me a lavender ash which has since settled in to a flattering ash blonde shade), to the kind that really baffles me, “Your hair looks so full and thick!”.

Jade Seah

I find this baffling because my natural hair is fine – and stick-straight. Only those who have known me from school days know this to be true. These compliments also baffle me because while I’m generally content with my God-given appearance, if I could change one thing about the way I look, it would actually be my hair!

This is my hair when it is not styled:

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When rebonding was all the rage in the late 90s thanks to the likes of Gwyneth Paltrow and company, people would then ask if my schoolgirl, natural hair had undergone the chemical straightening treatment! Looking back now I guess it was a sort of compliment, but it drove me nuts then.

I never understood why people would spend good time and money to get their hair flat and straight!

It was trendy then; many wanted Jennifer Aniston’s ironed look:

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And Gwyneth’s:

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And Posh Spice’s (when she was still known as Posh and not yet as Victoria Beckham):

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I never understood why, when here I was buying every texturising product that promised waves/curls/body – which is also the reason why not many people know the natural texture of my hair!

I have chosen to fight the limp straightness with chemical treatments (NOT rebonding!), clever styling and the use of good hair products.

Tadah! (This was professionally styled, lol):

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For the longest time, I would get my hair permed every three to six months. Here was my hair 7 years ago in 2009 – do not be fooled. This was permed and painstakingly professionally styled…to look like it wasn’t styled.

Jade Seah

Back when I was still in school, these perms would sometimes be disastrous, lol. The picture below was against my stylist’s advice NOT to perm my already short, damaged hair. I obviously was never great with taking advice…

Jade seah bad hair perm

It’s only this period with all the bleaching damage from the colouring and highlights that I’ve given the perms a break (not my choice, I’ll admit – Fannie thinks the current hair state will not be able to withstand a perm and has refused to do it for me).

The last time my hair was long and permed:

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Over the years however, I have discovered products that work for me to give the illusion of the hair I long for – wavy, messy with natural texture and lots of body. (See Blake Lively’s for inspo!)

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The number one favourite product in this arsenal is dry shampoo. If you’ve never heard of dry shampoo, well, you’ll thank me later. I discovered this when I was in university. I was (still am!) a magazine junkie, and I would spend good money each month on fashion magazines, both local and foreign. There would always be some story on hair, and every so often I would see “dry shampoo” pop up as a way to either style, get out of the house fast or to refresh one’s look in the evening for a date. I was fascinated. A shampoo that could be used dry? Where would I find this sorcery?

It could not be found in Singapore then. I know; I looked everywhere.

Then I went to New York for a holiday and managed to find it in a drugstore. I brought it home and sprayed it at the roots of my day-old hair, just like it said on the packaging, then brushed it out. It was like magic. Not only were my roots no longer oily, but my scalp ad hair smelled clean again, and most importantly, looked fuller! Truly, what sorcery was this! I used to stock up on the stuff whenever I travelled and found it, or I would ask friends to get it for me when they did.

Klorane dry shampoo with Oat milk

Fast forward to today where the likes of Sephora have brought many products that once could not be found in Asia, to Asia, dry shampoo being one of them. Drugstores like Guardian and Watsons have also finally seen the light and have started distributing the stuff. There is more than one brand now that carries dry shampoo in their lineup of products, which means these days I actually have *gasp* choice. I have tried a few brands, but I find myself going back to the brand I started with those years ago, Klorane.

You see, some brands’ dry shampoos have a funny smell. I’m not going to mention names, but there are brands that try too hard with coconut/fruity smells. I like fruity smells in normal shampoo, but anyone who has used dry shampoo extensively will tell you that such scents don’t work when mixed with an oily scalp.

Then there are brands that have an acceptable scent, but they leave my scalp itchy. Some seem to get rid of the excess oil by piling on powder – this builds up to a look that is not attractive.

There was one brand that I thought to be decent. It however costs almost fifty bucks a can, which I think is a little extravagant.

The dry shampoo by Klorane is my top choice for a few reasons: it does the job of cutting shine, it makes my hair fuller and gives the appearance of having more body, it is kind on my scalp (it doesn’t itch and is supposedly sulfate, paraben, sodium chloride and silicone free) and it is well-priced at below S$15 a can.

I have also started using Klorane’s Dry Shampoo with Oat Milk just to add body and texture to my fine hair. It is especially good at giving a lift at the roots.

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Another product I have recently discovered is Klorane’s Leave-in Spray with Flax Fiber. I spray it at the roots after a wash, and…done. It works better when you blow-dry your hair with your head upside down – but who has time to blow-dry one’s hair daily? (I personally enjoy playing with makeup, but I hate fussing with my hair!)

It works even without styling and it even works on dry hair for a boost of volume and texture, with none of that awful stiffness or dryness that are in some volumizing products (I should know; I always try the products that promise volume!). There, secret #2 revealed!

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Finally, cleansing. I alternate between shampoos, mostly because I get bored of smelling the same thing all the time, but also because my hair has many needs and concerns (coloured, fine, limp, damaged) that I try to address with the different shampoos.

I use a colour one some days, but colour shampoos have the unfortunate result of being a little heavy and they leave my hair smoother and flatter than I would like sometimes. The same is true of shampoos for damaged hair. I use clarifying shampoos every so often to clear my hair and scalp of buildup and to keep it clean.

On the other days, I give my hair a break with mild shampoos that also clean well and leave hair soft – but not limp.

Jade Seah Klorane

One of the gentle shampoos that I like is the Klorane Shampoo with Oat Milk. I got this because I saw it contains the same ingredient of oat milk as my favourite dry shampoo, and found it to be really gentle on my hair and scalp. It has apparently been tested to be safe even for children, so it must be caring and good for frequent use. It also has that same clean, comforting smell that I like.

Jade Seah Klorane

These are some of my preferred hair care products that I’ve found through trial and error over the years. Share with me some of yours please so I can try them out too!

G I V E A W A Y
If you want a chance to try Klorane’s Dry Shampoo with Oat Milk plus my other favourite hair products featured here, go to my Instagram:

Simply ‘like’ and share the above post, and remember to tag me @jadeseah and hashtag #kloranesg in your shared post!

Tue Sep, 6 2016

Jade Seah Favourites | July 2016

Every month, I’ll share some of my favourite finds – movies, books, places, buys – good things should be shared!

Please share some of your favourite things so I can check them out too!

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Mon Sep, 5 2016

Burn fat in 15 mins | Jade Seah

High Intensity Interval Training (HITT) – the most efficient way of working out.

I’ve always liked running, but it takes too long to get a real workout. Picked up high intensity interval training (HITT) recently and found it to be super effective in keeping fit – and staying lean! No equipment needed.

In case you want to try this at home, simply set a timer (there are many free apps available for this) and do each move for 45 seconds, with a 15 second rest in between.

Easy as pie – in just 15 minutes!

Here are the 15 exercises we did in this video:
● Jumping jacks
● Plank with shoulder taps
● X jumps
● Bicycle crunches
● Plank jumping jacks
● Side crunches
● Skaters
● Alternate side planks
● Alternate lunges
● Flutter kicks
● Jump squats
● “4″ leg raises (left)
● “4″ leg raises (right)
● Combination mountain climbers
● Half burpees

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Tue Aug, 23 2016

Super Effective 13 Minute Workout

High Intensity Interval Training (HITT) – the most efficient way of working out.

I’ve always liked running, but it takes too long to get a real workout. Picked up high intensity interval training (HITT) recently and found it to be super effective in keeping fit – and staying lean! No equipment needed.

Set a timer (there are many free apps available for this) and do each move for 45 seconds, with a 15 second rest in between. Easy as pie – in just 13 minutes!

Here is a list of the exercises:
1. Plank with shoulder taps
2. High knee run
3. Plank with alternate lift of each arm and leg
4. Cross (that’s knee to alternate shoulder) mountain climbers
5. Bench step ups
6. Crunches with legs at 90 degrees
7. Horizontal jumping jacks
8. Skaters/lateral bounding
9. Bicycle crunches
10. “X” jumps
11. Alternate side planks
12. Long jump with 3 hops
13. Slow mountain climbers (with 3 alternating moves)

Do this daily and I’m pretty sure you’ll see results (weight loss/ leaner/ fitter/ firmer) in as quickly as a month’s time!

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Tue Aug, 23 2016

Joseph Schooling Answers Difficult Questions | Jade Seah

Got a chat with Joseph Schooling and asked him some fun questions!
This one was for all the fangirls (and boys!).

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With special thanks to: Mothership.sg

Mon Aug, 8 2016

Paris Summer 2016 | Jade Seah Travels

Summer in Paris! Had such a fun time, and so many great memories.
(Thanks Clarins for hosting and making the trip that much more wonderful!)

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Wed Jul, 20 2016

Date Night on a $50 budget at Japan Food Town

Checked out the newly-opened Japan Food Town at Wisma Atria over the weekend and found some date night ideas for you if you’re on a $50 budget.
(PS: Might be best not to inform your date you’re on a $50 budget or that might just be your farewell date!)

Itadakimasu! Makan! (Let’s eat!)

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Sun Jul, 3 2016

Fun on a $50 budget at the Geylang Ramadan Bazaar

Checked out the Ramadan Bazaar at Geylang Serai over the weekend. Here are my picks for what you can get up for $50!

Selamat Hari Raya to all Muslim friends!

Tue Jun, 7 2016

On Feeling Trapped in an Abusive Relationship

Came across this video and it struck such a chord in me. I too have been in such a relationship.

Many friends were/are surprised that I suffered emotional abuse in a past relationship. They think I’m “strong” and “would never have allowed” that to happen. The truth is, when you’re in love you sometimes don’t think straight; you let a lot of things go and you try to accommodate. I opened up on what happened in a Dayre post two years ago:

Abusive relationship

Abusive relationship

The full post below, or you can read more here:

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On Feeling Trapped in an Abusive Relationship

Was at my usual hair salon & just read this feature in a local women’s magazine on abusive relationships. It really struck a chord, and was a not-so-pleasant reminder of my last relationship; although unlike the stories in the feature (one was flung from a 7-storey flat while pregnant!), I was lucky to have gotten out before really getting hurt.

It seems such a cliché pattern, but it always starts out good, great, even. A lot of friends are amazed someone who they deem as “strong” and “tough” as myself would stand for even a little of that kind of nonsense. I guess it’s true what Connie Francis sang in the 60s, “Everybody’s Somebody’s Fool”?

Of course things started off great. He pursued me with great determination, even though I’d just come out of a relationship with someone I still care for (just not in the same passionate-romantic way) and said I wasn’t ready to be in another relationship. He was persistent and patient. He said all the right things and did all the sweet things – really went the extra mile, and then some.

Against my (and my gfs!) better judgement, I eventually agreed to go out with him. Always listen to your gut (and do consider your well-meaning friends’ gut instincts), ladies!!

I think there were small signs, I just chose not to think the worst (a terrible weakness of mine!). In one instance, we had a hen’s night party for one of my gfs at a club and he just “happened to be there” with a guy friend. He was really apologetic about it though, asking if I was okay that he’d be around as his friend wanted to go to the same club; although he wouldn’t hang out with me there as I was with the girls. I thought nothing of it – Singapore’s pretty small and I don’t own the club.

In the end, he kept sending drinks over to us before eventually hanging out at our table practically the rest of the night. I wasn’t too bothered as he wasn’t like clingy and he entertained himself trying to ingratiate himself with my friends most of the night.

But that was an indication of things to come, a sign I chose not to see. He had terrible trust issues. He hated when I went out on my girls’ nights out. He even hated when I hung out at the beach at night with my gfs just chatting. He would get very upset if I didn’t msg him every 30 mins – I was honestly just catching up! He hated that I had male running buddies – one of whom was years younger and the other married and my father’s age (plus I am friends with his wife!).

He would throw big fits whenever any of these things happened. Perhaps he’s used to more submissive girls who would listen and give in to his demands, but I didn’t feel I was doing anything wrong; I wasn’t hanging out one on one with other men; most times I was just chatting with the girls, and even when it was a night out partying, it was always responsibly and with no funny business. I think he realised I was going to carry on with my lifestyle, so he found creative ways to control me.

He would insist on picking me up whenever I went out. Although that sounds sweet (and in general, picking up your other half is a sweet gesture) it wasn’t quite as it wasn’t that he would come when I was ready; he would pressure me to leave early and make me feel bad about wanting to stay longer.

He would also guilt-trip me and get upset when I didn’t reply to his barrage of msgs while I was out with my gfs; usually msgs that were inconsequential and/or highly unnecessary.

While I didn’t completely give in and submit to his demands, I am slightly ashamed to say that I didn’t 100% stand my ground either.

To prevent big, dramatic fights (I absolutely HATE extra drama) I would make a conscious effort to indulge him and reply promptly to his 10000 msgs that inevitably came each time I went out with my gfs.

I would also try to leave earlier so that he wouldn’t get upset when he “offered to pick me up”, and I stopped meeting a few close guy pals completely as he would really go ballistic. (I actually explained the issue to them then, and also apologised after, and good friends as they are, they forgave me/understood and still remain my good friends today.)

I think the thing that hit me that I wasn’t happy was when he went on a work trip. Instead of feeling sad or even really missing him, I felt so free. I hung out at the beach till late, I hung out at my folks’ place just chatting; I went skating at night alone again…it was like being released from chains.

But still, I didn’t leave him.

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When a relationship becomes a part of your life (you see this person a lot; maybe you even stay together), you sometimes do what you can to keep the peace. I’m generally confrontational but when it happens on the daily, you get tired of fighting and you just want stability and peace – at all costs.

If you’re currently suffering like this, please know that it doesn’t make you weak that you let it go on as long as you have – but it is definitely time to get out.

On that…once you have made up your mind, steel yourself. Getting out is not going to easy. I think the video sums it up really well. The abuser will look for you, will apologise, will be extra loving, will say it is just because he/she is “afraid to lose you”.

Be strong. Tell the ones who love you the full story (because likely as in my case, they had/have no idea this is going on). They will help keep you away and keep you from softening. You will cry. It will hurt. You will be tempted to go back because you miss this person. But stay strong and think about your long-term happiness. Not being able to hang out with your friends in peace or living in constant fear is no way to live.

Good luck, and please reach out if you need support.

Wed Jun, 1 2016

How to Find Great Deals in Singapore | Jade Seah

Tips on surviving the GSS as shared by fellow Singaporeans!

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